There comes a moment — sometimes loud like thunder, sometimes quiet like a whisper in the bones — when you realize healing isn’t just about you.
It’s about your daughter watching you choose peace over panic.
It’s about your ancestors exhaling every time you break a pattern they had no power to escape.
It’s about your sacred purpose, your dharma, unfolding in the small ways you choose to show up for yourself — even when it would be easier to abandon your needs.
Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.
The Sacred Responsibility of Tending to Yourself
We hear a lot about “pouring from an empty cup.” But it’s deeper than that.
When I care for myself — when I get quiet, burn my oils, say no with love, stretch my body, feed it herbs and warmth — the whole household shifts.
Aubrey feels it.
The energy in our space lightens.
My own Spirit returns to my body.
And suddenly, the future doesn’t feel so heavy.
Self-care, for me, is ritual. It’s reiki. It’s remembering who I am and why I came. It’s saying, “No more suffering in silence,” and letting joy take up space, too.
Ancestral Healing Begins in the Body
Our ancestors didn’t always have the time or safety to heal.
Many of them lived in survival, holding in grief, pushing through pain.
But when we slow down, when we tend to our nervous systems, cry when we need to cry, rest without guilt — we say yesto what they could only dream of.
Our bodies hold memory. But they also hold potential.
Every reiki session. Every plant bath. Every time I light a candle and speak their names.
That’s a spell of release. That’s a balm to generations. That’s sacred rebellion.
Living Your Dharma: Your Soul’s True Path
Dharma is more than a job or a calling.
It’s how you move. How you mother. How you speak love into hard places.
It’s the medicine you came to Earth carrying — the kind that only you can offer.
And here’s the truth: when you ignore your own needs, when you dim your own light, your dharma gets lost in the noise.
But when you honor yourself — when you listen deeply, protect your peace, nourish your soul — your purpose begins to bloom.
Your path becomes clear.
You stop surviving… and start embodying legacy.
Rituals That Anchor the Journey
This healing doesn’t have to be grand or expensive. Start where you are.
Here are a few ways I return to myself:
Daily Grounding – barefoot in soil, hand on heart, deep breaths with intention
Ancestor Altar Check-Ins – lighting a candle, offering water, speaking my truth
Protective Baths – herbs like rue, basil, rosemary… whispering over the water before stepping in
Candle Magic for Clarity – when I feel lost, I ask the flame to remind me who I am
Journaling Prompts –
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What am I still carrying that isn’t mine?
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What would living my truth look like this week?
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How can I mother myself more gently today?
The Ripple Starts With You
I don’t always get it right. Sometimes I move too fast.
Sometimes the grief catches me off guard.
But I return. I return to myself, because I have to. Because I choose to.
Because the healing I do ripples out — to Aubrey, to my community, to my lineage, and back into me.
This is your permission to make your healing sacred.
To live your life as prayer.
To walk your dharma, not perfectly, but fully.
You don’t have to wait to be whole to begin.
The beginning is the healing.
And you are already enough to start.